The treasure of friendship

       Sometimes it’s hard to come straight out and tell our friends how much we love and appreciate them. We might feel awkward expressing deep feelings, even to our nearest and dearest, because it is not a common practice. We might get choked up or embarrassed in the process, or we might fear we will embarrass them. Still, we all have those moments when we realize how fortunate we are to have the friends we have, and we may long to express our gratitude. Moreover, it may be of tremendous benefit to our friends to be at the receiving end of our appreciation. At times like these, writing a letter can help us say what we want to say without feeling self-conscious. Additionally, a letter gives your friend the space to really take in your expression of love and the gift of being able to return to it time and again.
        As you sit down to write to your friend, take a moment to consider the qualities you most value in your friendship. It might be the fact that you always laugh when you talk or that you feel safe enough to confess your worst problems and always leave feeling better about everything. It might be the new ideas and experiences you’ve been exposed to throughout the course of your friendship. Whatever it is, really take the time to express to your friend their unique impact on your life. You don’t have to use big words or fancy metaphors; all you need to do is write from your heart and your friend will feel the love in the words.
       Letters, which used to be somewhat common, are now rare. A handwritten letter makes a wonderful gift to be treasured always. You might simply send it or hand deliver it out of the blue. Whatever you choose, your letter will no doubt be received and treasured with a grateful heart.
(source: DailyOM)

Winning is not everything

The following text that I found and that you will read bellow, is about ambitous and succesfull people. In fact, it's a reflection about what mean succes and realization in our lives.

Read and reflect!
The urges that drive us to compete with others tend to be straightforward. Years of both evolution and societal influences have shaped us to pit ourselves against our peers. The needs and desires that inspire us to compete with ourselves, however, are entirely personal and thus far more complex. A need to outdo our earlier efforts—to confirm that we have grown as individuals—can motivate us to reach new heights of accomplishment. We are capable of using our past achievements as a foundation from which we venture confidently into the unknown. Yet if this drive to compete with our former selves is the result of low self-worth or a need to prove ourselves to others, even glowing successes can feel disheartening. Examining why we compete with ourselves enables us to positively identify those contests that will enrich our existence.

There are many reasons we strive to outdo ourselves. When we are ambitious in our quest for growth, we are driven to set and meet our own expectations. We do not look to external experiences of winning and losing to define our sense of self-worth. Rather, we are our own judges and coaches, monitoring our progress and gauging how successful we have become. Though we seek the thrill of accomplishment tirelessly, we do so out of a legitimate need to improve the world or to pave the way for those who will follow in our footsteps. Be careful, though, that your competitiveness is not the result of an unconscious need to show others that you are capable of meeting and then exceeding their standards.

Consider, too, that successful efforts that would be deemed more than good enough when evaluated from an external perspective may not satisfy our inner judge, who can drive us ruthlessly. In order to attain balance, we have to learn the art of patience even as we strive to achieve our highest vision of who we are. When we feel drained, tense, or unhappy as we pursue our goals, it may be that we are pushing ourselves for the wrong reasons. Our enthusiasm for our endeavors will return as soon as we recall that authentic evolution is a matter not of winning but of taking pride in our progress at any pace.
(source: DailyOM)

A sparrow

Even I cried againt the weak mind of the olds and I analysed theirs limits and ours prejudices related to them, now I am shame. Though, I could be (partially or in some degree) right in my opinions that I enunciated in my other blog (http://meditatiiromanafranceza.blogspot.com/ ), now I am shame. You will realize why watching the video bellow.

Unexpected Enlightenment

I was impressed by this subject of meditation concerning the modalities of human relationship. That means the kindless people are losing the issue to wisdom. If animals of different species can interact withouth hurting them, each others,  why we, human beings, we couln't do it?

You Never Know Who You Meet

Our individual journeys take us into many unexpected situations where we encounter a wide variety of people come quite like ourselves and some very different. We cannot anticipate these meetings, but we can make the most of them when they take place. When we are courteous as a matter of course and open-minded in our assessment of the individuals whose lives briefly touch our own, we are more apt to stumble upon surprising gems of wisdom that open our eyes to new worlds of possibility. Every person we meet can affect us profoundly, just as every situation we find ourselves in can teach us something new.

To fully embrace this fact, it is essential that we acknowledge that everyone is valuable in their own way and capable of expanding our horizons. Since we never know when we will happen upon those individuals who will unveil truths before us, we should extend to all people the same generous level of kindness, care, compassion, and understanding. When we assume everyone we meet is special and treat them as such, we can develop a strong rapport quickly. By making an effort to adopt a positive attitude toward others at all times, we ensure that our emotions do not blind us to wisdom that may be lurking in difficult or distressing situations. We are accordingly receptive to knowledge that comes to us in the form of examples, advice, and direct teaching.

These brief relationships ultimately have the potential to enrich our lives in a very concrete way. But the wisdom we gain is proportional to the attention we pay to the world around us. The responsibility is on us to maintain a state of awareness that allows us to recognize when we are in the presence of someone consciously or unconsciously in possession of knowledge that will change us significantly. When we are cognizant of the potential for unexpected enlightenment, we make a habit of turning strangers into friends, thus ensuring that we are never without a font of wisdom from which to draw.

(source DailyOm)

The Socrate's jugement about rumor

Keep this philosophy in mind the next time you hear, or are out to repeat a rumor. 
In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom. One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance, who ran up to him excitedly and said:

"Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students...?"

"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Test of Three."

"Test of Three?"

"That's correct," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to test what you're going to say. The first test is Truth.. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man replied, "actually I just heard about it."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second test, the test of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him even though you're not certain it's true?"

The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.

Socrates continued, "You may still pass though because the re is a third test - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really..."

"Well," concluded Socrates, if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?"

The man was defeated and ashamed and said no more.

This is one of the reasons that Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem. It also explains why Socrates never found out that Plato was banging his wife.

Expressions of the heart

I wish to share with you what I think about homemade gifts, because, many years ago, I gifted someone with a waistcoat sewed by myself and this person left me the bitter impression that she wasn't satisfied, that she wished a more expensive gift, not some manufactured thing .

So, let's read toghether what I found about this theme, these  few lines expressing better what I meant to say with this short introduction above.

'The gifts we craft with our own hands are often the most significant because the love that drove us to create is infused in the products of our creation. And the recipients of these homemade offerings receive a token of our willingness to invest ourselves in their joy. Allow these ideas to inspire you:

• When you craft a beautifully decorated prayer box (or jar) for loved ones, you give them the gift of spiritual awareness. As you share this gift, explain that it should serve as a receptacle for their hopes, dreams, and loves—as well as worries—and thus a reminder of who they were, are, and will someday be.
• If you love journaling, share your writing joy with family and friends by giving each a unique, handmade personal journal. A simple spiral notebook dressed up with paper, fabric, photographs, or other embellishments will give your loved ones a special place to record their private thoughts.
• Erase the distance between yourself and your far away loved ones by presenting each with a photo journal documenting how your life has changed in the past year. Or introduce them to your locale with a homemade guidebook that highlights everything you love about your town or city.
• When you sew medicine bags for the people you care about, you can rest assured your gift will always be close to their hearts. A small pouch can be filled with many meditative or symbolic items, such as quartz crystals, sage, or magical objects.
• A progressive photo album, wherein pictures tell the story of your relationships from the past up to the present, can be a simple yet poignant reminder of the many wonderful experiences you and your loved ones have shared over the years.
• Give the gift of serenity with a guided meditation you create and record to CD or tape. Your loved ones will take pleasure in being led through tranquil landscapes by the soothing sound of your voice.
• Hand-crafted ornaments that can be hung on trees, in windows, and on walls afford you an opportunity to surround the important people in your life with beauty. Whether you prefer to work with clay, crystals, fabric, baked dough, or natural objects, your gift can serve as a calming focal point in your loved ones’ homes. '

And now the conclusion to wich I subscribe with all my heart:

      'Whether you choose to give a gift or simply share your friendship and love, remember that it is the intention behind the thought that is most important. ' (source:  DailyOm)

Improve your memory by training your brain

What is Memory ?
Memory is the ability of our brains to retain the things we have learned. We can all identify occasions when we cannot recall things which we should know.
You can improve your short term memory. This will allow you to remember numbered sequences, equations, shopping lists, etc for the time it takes to complete the task. You may or may not remember the information the next time you use it.
You can also improve the more enduring long term memory. This can be anything from remembered scenes from childhood to languages and scientific data.


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How Does Improve Memory Work ?
It has been proven beyond all reasonable doubt that short and long term memory can be improved by listening to binaural sound in the alpha range.
A specific binaural frequency in the alpha range has been identified as the most potent contributor to improving memory from test to test.
How will Improve Memory help you ?
The improvement in memory can be rapid , consistent and permanent.
Remember names and faces and be able to recall them months or years later.
Never forget an important birthday or anniversary.
Never struggle for the right word or phrase in discussion
Cut study time by 50% or more.
Remember the facts from everything you read or hear.
Throw away your lists and memos.
Impress your friends and clients with your knowledge and ability to remember important things about them.
So, do here a such test in order to improve your memory:

http://flashfabrica.com/f_learning/brain/brain.html

GOOD LUCK!

The law of attraction

         The law of attraction is surprisingly simple: Like attracts like. It becomes a bit more complicated when it comes to training our minds to think in ways that will bring what we desire into our lives. The term

"self-fulfilling prophecy" describes the same law. This well-known term explains that we create the circumstances our mind dwells upon, whether positive or negative. So our goal is to practice consistent presence of mind to make sure our thoughts are always directed toward the positive and that which we want to create.
            A key to the process is the word "frequency." This is true for two reasons:
            1) The frequency you use when you passionately dwell upon or revisit a thought, dream, desire or goal provides the energy your musings need for creation;
 and
            2) just like a radio station broadcasts on a certain frequency,like the radio you must be "tuned in" to receive it. This means preparing for the arrival of your dream on every possible level—material, physical, and spiritual.
You don’t have to know how it will come into your life, just trust that it will. Your job is to lay the groundwork, follow any leads you can find, and prepare for its arrival. This can mean cleaning out your garage to make space for a new car, taking a tour of a model home to get the feel of it in order to feed your fantasies, or thinking of what you want in a mate and then living up to that list yourself.
        Just like with any skill, the law of attraction must be practiced. We must decide what makes us feel abundant, and use our imagination to create the feeling. It isn’t enough to just want something; you must use the power of your thoughts to attract it. A series of choices is what brings us everything in our lives right now, every moment. When we know the direction we want our choices to take us, it is as if we’ve placed an order with the universe. Then we can await its arrival with joyful anticipation. If we find ways to experience our dreams right now, we make creating joy a treasure hunt in which the seeking is just as much fun as the finding.(source: DailyOM)

From Upanishad book

The human being has two states of consciousness: one in this world, the other in the next. But there is a third state between them, not unlike the world of dreams, in which we are aware of both worlds, with their sorrows and joys. When a person dies, it is only the physical body that dies; that person lives on in a nonphysical body, which carries the impressions of his past life. It is these impressions that determine his next life. In this intermediate state he makes and dissolves impressions by the light of the Self.
- Brihadaranyaka Upanishad -

Volcanos of our feelings and emotions

Intense emotions demand intense modes of expression. While there are many outlets for the feelings typically deemed positive, however, there are far fewer methods for constructively coping with anger, frustration, fear, sadness, or stress. Consequently, such feelings can cause us to believe that we are no longer in control of our emotional state. Backed into a mental corner, we may lash out at the first individual we encounter. Most of us will quickly discover that our misdirected outpouring of fury has not relieved the pressure of our pain. Powerful emotions are like the lava in a volcano poised to erupt—held in check with nothing but an eroding layer of calm. Within us lies the power to direct the flood of feeling that surges forth by channeling it into productive, artistic, or laborious pursuits.

Retaking control of our emotions at their height can be difficult because our already negative feelings can convince us that others are deserving of our wrath. But if we consciously look for healthier ways of expressing what we feel, we can both safely dispel our pain and use the energy of that pain to add value to our lives. Anger and sadness, for example, can become the inspiration that induces us to dedicate ourselves to bringing about the change we wish to see in the world. If we act rather than react, we can become effective agents of positive transformation. When we channel our frustration or feelings of stress into outside-the-box thinking and proactive exploits, we are more apt to discover solutions to the issues that initially left us stymied. And if we view fear as a signal that we need to reexamine our circumstances rather than a cue to flee, we may gain new and unexpected insight into our lives.

Channeling your emotions into constructive action can also prevent you from engaging in cyclical rumination in which you repeatedly relive the situation, event, or expectation that originally sparked your feelings in your mind’s eye. Since you are focused on a goal, even if your ambition is merely to better understand yourself, your pain is no longer being fed by your intellectual and emotional energy and quickly ebbs away. You not only avoid lashing out at others, but you also actively take part in your own healing process while honestly acknowledging and honoring your feelings.
(source: DailyOM - today@dailyom.com)

How to be happy

      Take care at the positive things of our lives and forget the negative. Work with passion and love.
The universe is often an unpredictable and chaotic place, and the human tendency is to focus on the negative and assume the positive will care for itself. But life can be no more or no less than what you make of it. If you are working in a job you dislike, you can concentrate on the positive aspects of the position and approach your work with gusto. What can you do with this job that can turn it around so you do love it. When faced with the prospect of undertaking a task you fear, you can view it as an opportunity to discover what you are truly capable of doing. Similarly, unexpected events, when viewed as surprises, can add flavor to your existence. By choosing to love life no matter what crosses your path, you can create an atmosphere of jubilance that is wonderfully infectious. A change in perspective is all it takes to change your world, but you
      To make a conscious decision to be happy is not enough. You must learn to observe life’s complexities through the eyes of a child seeing everything for the first time. You must furthermore divest (free) yourself of preconceived notions of what is good and what is bad so that you can appreciate the rich insights concealed in each stage of your life’s journey. And you must strive (attempt) to discover the dual joys of wanting what you have. As you gradually shift your perspective, your existence will be imbued with happiness and contentment that will remain with you forever.

The greatest teacher

 I found this morning in my in box mails this short text about the teacher's life and I decided to share you it. I underlined what seems to be more important. But...yes, I have a big 'but', it's only a little lesson about how to be ....human, not how to be the best in your profession. So make this difference between the social succes and professional succes, between EQ and IQ.

'Many of us long to find a spiritual teacher or guru. We may feel unsure of how to practice our spirituality without one, or we may long for someone who has attained a higher level of insight to lead the way for us. Some of us have been looking for years to no avail and feel frustrated and even lost. The good news is that the greatest teacher you could ever want is always with you—that is your life.

The people and situations we encounter every day have much to teach us when we are open to receiving their wisdom. Often we don’t recognize our teachers because they may not look or act like our idea of a guru, yet they may embody great wisdom. In addition, some people teach us by showing us what we don’t want to do. All the situations in our lives, from the insignificant to the major, conspire to teach us exactly what we need to be learning at any given time. Patience, compassion, perseverance, honesty, letting go—all these are covered in the classroom of the teacher that is your life.

We can help ourselves to remember this perfect teacher each day with a few simple words. Each morning we might find a moment to say, "I acknowledge and honor the teacher that is my life. May I be wise enough to recognize the teachers and lessons that I encounter today, and may I be open to receiving their wisdom." We might also take some time each day to consider what our lives are trying to teach us at this time. A difficult phase in your relationship with your child may be teaching you to let go. The homeless person you see every day may be showing you the boundaries of your compassion and generosity. A spate of lost items may be asking you to be more present to physical reality. Trust your intuition on the nature of the lesson at hand, work at your own pace, and ask as many questions as you want. Your life has all the answers.

Parents and sons

Even I cried againt the weak mind of the olds and I analysed theirs limits and ours prejudices related to them, now I am shame. Though, I could be (partially or in some degree) right in some degree;my opinions that I enunciated in my other blog (http://meditatiiromanafranceza.blogspot.com/ ), now I am shame. You will realize why watching the video realized by Constantin Pilavios at: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MijRS7myeBY&feature=player_embedded#

About art of painting

What happen with you, dears? A few hours earlier, in this afternoon, I entried accidentally on a site of a Romanian painting artist, who celebrated the first august, almost two weeks ago, his 50-th anniversary, he reached 50 years, a round age. As Dante say in his 'Divine Comedy', he passed 'il mezzo del camino' and now, he is more near from an unknown territory of his immortality. Well, his three painting that I saw first were all landscapes, maybe aquatic landscapes. It was a big revelation and I opened big eyes as in front of an extraterrestrial being: it so rare to met an human beeing passionned about his profession....and to do it very well.So, I left some comments under his pictures, telling him that for me his style of painting is a combination between impressionisme and abstractness in the Monet's and J. Pollock's manners. He was very affected by my observation which were very kindless. In fact, I confessed my admiration for his style of painting. He responded me that he was thinking the painting as a joyfull art of life. It was a personal point of view and he was absolutely right in this sense. But between what the artist conceive to be and wish to give birth into a painting and what he realized is a big...wall: that's why exist the concelead meaning wich is revealed by the reaction of the consummer of his art. However, the art is not allways provoquing joy and happiness. Look at 'The Cry' of Munich, at Giorgio Chirico's anxious landscapes or, maybe, to Frida Kahlo's selfportrait.

Look at them!

This video is for the pets lovers. I'm sure that those animals will charme you.Have a nice watching! Anyway if you would to let me some of yours suggestions, I'll be here to listen you. See you soon!

Thoughts

After four - almost five - centuries past, I think that we can not separate these two (Shakespearian) verbs (of the Hamletian speech) of our existence on earth: 'TO BE' and his opposite and negative 'NOT TO BE'. Why? Because the invisible or that wich we can not touch or feel in a direct manner, as dreams or as others inconscient warings of the instinct, the invisible belonging to the 'irrational', to what is inaccesible to view and imperceptible. During so many time, century by century, the rational and the irrational disputed to take the first place in our mind and lacerated ours souls. They was separated and, in the majority of cases untill now, the irrational beings payed with his lifes for having showed us what wasn't clear, intelligible, coherent, but often was more vital for all of us: witches, magicians, heretics (in the meaning of someone who dissents from an accepted doctrine and belief).
And now, near present time, we put on his suited place what is not visible, what is not rational. It's a big step before and the light and the order of the powerful reason are not more our full master...

Dreaming a butterfly

My whole life is a continous reading a of big authors or writters. I had the impression that I'm not born, that my life is a page of a book, as the butterfly of TaoTse. He said: 'I dreamed once that I'm a butterfly wich was dreaming me'. Where is the reality? Who is real: TaoTse or the butterfly?
So, I would now to see if I'm the butterfly dreaming in his mind to me in the virtual world. Maybe, we are all butterflies on this little blue planet and we don't know it yet.When I learn about some danger for the futur of earth population, as the change between poles positions, the present North becoming the South, I feel to be as unreal as the butterfly in the philosopher's mind.

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Composing home-work

Let's comment a little this shakespearian question:
'TO BE OR NOT TO BE!'
Yes, I know, a lot of ink flood to comment this so simple question for us, the twenty-one century's peoples!
And it seems to be too hard for us, who don't yet have enough english refined vocabulary.Don't be affraid! Trying is the best way to reach our goals.

Learning english

I met since soon a Japanese's blog who posted there his comments in order to learn and to improve his english level whith the kindness help of all his visitors.
So, that's why I thought to create myself a such blog and to invite here all the Romanian english speakers to tell stories, to make conversation about every days facts, to describe the happies or sads events of ours lifes.
Let's begin!
I propose you to describe the most important being of your life and to motivate why.
It's a too oversimplified compose or a too scholastic subject?
Well, I'm not so good to express myself in english so I wish only to learn more and to keep in touch with this shakespearian language. I use this adjective, 'shakespearian', because I consider a big magician of words and language as Shakespeare was, create again the language of his country. It's like a new birth for the english language.
I hope we'll touch ours aims: to speak and to write more fluently in english.
I beg your pardon for the mistakes that will appear on my page, but I can promise you that I will correct it immediately I'll find them.